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Monday, May 16, 2011

the tackiest little thing we ever did see

When you receive wedding invitations in the mail, it is a fairly standard expectation (at least in the great state of Utah) that you will find some sort of gift registry card enclosed in the pretty little envelope. Now, here at Blossom Sweet we have mixed feelings about said enclosures whatsoever, but we'll tell you what, things are seriously starting to get out of hand! People seem to be feeling more and more entitled when it comes to asking for money and gifts. We'd like to address this issue in what (hopefully) will not offend those of you who have violated basic rules of nuptial etiquette in this manner. Yep, violated.

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First is the worst. Several months ago I was at a friends house and was looking through some wedding invitations on the kitchen counter (I can't help myself). I found the concept you're about to see to be so ghastly that I have carried this card around in my wallet for six months waiting to share it with you. Brace yourselves, my friends, because yes, I was shocked to find that enclosed in one of the invites was this little number:


Agh! Seriously? SERIOUSLY? Who does that? I was more than a little speechless and taken aback to say the least. The happy couple in question had enclosed a registry card that would allow guests to essentially sign on the dotted line, mail or hand deliver the card to the couple's bank, and deposit a designated amount of moolah into their account instead of giving a gift. Ew! Tacky, tacky, TACKY. Stop it.

That one was definitely the worst I've seen, but I have to say I have seen some other doozies in my day. A couple of prime examples:
  • I've received more than one little insert requesting cash gifts ONLY.
  • Now this one goes one step further. I received an invitation from a bride in which the registry card asked specifically for cash, but then pleaded with guests that if they felt they needed to give a gift other than cash that they PLEASE remember to include a gift receipt. Yuck.
Brides, please cease and desist with the lack of tact. What's wrong with getting five toasters, anyway? My very own parents have rarely had to buy a new toaster in their nearly 27 years of marriage because they have their own private stash of them from their gettin'-hitched glory days. It's totes cool and super convenient, and their guests had the satisfaction of purchasing said congratulations-and-best-wishes-toasters.

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We support bridal registries, let's be clear about that. But where is the tact in nuptial bliss? Where has all the etiquette gone? Sigh. Be classy, couples, please be classy people.

8 sweet thought{s}:

Rebecca said...

I didn't include anything about my wedding registration in my invitations! If people wanted to know, the asked. I thought it was nicer, more professional and made it look like we weren't begging for stuff! I hate it when brides do that.

Jolee B. said...

Thank you!!! We totally got one of those stupid "send money to our bank" cards... ridiculous! I didn't put anything about registries in my invites either and people still figured out where we were registered. It is SO tacky to ask for gifts... even tackier to ask for money!

Alex K said...

OMG that is AWFUL hahaha. i included a card, but we only registered at bed bath and beyond, and it was mostly just because we had alot of out of town people who wanted to know so that was easiest to communicate it. that being said, i think its ridiculous when people register at a million places. seriously, do you NEED to register at REI? i dont think so. do you really need to tell me that you like 3 sets of sheets at BBB and 5 more at target? i mean, a registry is designed to tell people what basics you need to start a life together, not to create your dream home...

Janet said...

I agree with you wholeheartedly! I really don't even want them to tell me where they are registered - I think it it's tacky. And for the record, I usually give a check, it's never been returned :)

Karen Ella said...

oh. my. gosh. my mouth is still hanging open... the NERVE...

Bryce said...

AMEN!!! I can't stand the registry thing. Totally bugs. I am still in shock at that bank registry card! GAG. Double GAG.

photography by Mikki said...

THANK YOU for finally addressing this. I think the whole registry thing is kinda tacky all together...hilarious with the bank stuff, oh my!

Brittany said...

My mom told me about this post and I just had to check it out for myself. I agree, the bank card is tacky.