When you receive wedding invitations in the mail, it is a fairly standard expectation (at least in the great state of Utah) that you will find some sort of gift registry card enclosed in the pretty little envelope. Now, here at Blossom Sweet we have mixed feelings about said enclosures whatsoever, but we'll tell you what, things are seriously starting to get out of hand! People seem to be feeling more and more entitled when it comes to asking for money and gifts. We'd like to address this issue in what (hopefully) will not offend those of you who have violated basic rules of nuptial etiquette in this manner. Yep, violated.
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First is the worst. Several months ago I was at a friends house and was looking through some wedding invitations on the kitchen counter (I can't help myself). I found the concept you're about to see to be so ghastly that I have carried this card around in my wallet for six months waiting to share it with you. Brace yourselves, my friends, because yes, I was shocked to find that enclosed in one of the invites was this little number:
Agh! Seriously? SERIOUSLY? Who does that? I was more than a little speechless and taken aback to say the least. The happy couple in question had enclosed a registry card that would allow guests to essentially sign on the dotted line, mail or hand deliver the card to the couple's bank, and deposit a designated amount of moolah into their account instead of giving a gift. Ew! Tacky, tacky, TACKY. Stop it.
That one was definitely the worst I've seen, but I have to say I have seen some other doozies in my day. A couple of prime examples:
- I've received more than one little insert requesting cash gifts ONLY.
- Now this one goes one step further. I received an invitation from a bride in which the registry card asked specifically for cash, but then pleaded with guests that if they felt they needed to give a gift other than cash that they PLEASE remember to include a gift receipt. Yuck.
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We support bridal registries, let's be clear about that. But where is the tact in nuptial bliss? Where has all the etiquette gone? Sigh. Be classy, couples, please be classy people.